How sex toys impact our sex life?
Okay, let’s begin with some history here. Sex toys are probably as old as human beings themselves. Well, maybe not that old, but the oldest sex toy found so far is a dildo made out of stone dating back to at least 28,000 years ago. Further, we know that Cleopatra also had her own toy, and many believe that the famous clitoral vibrator “Rose” is based on Cleopatra’s toy.
And why am I mentioning this?
Well, just to make the taboo around toys less of a taboo. Toys have been around for a long period of time, and they are here to stay. So why not learn about them and use them? And I am going to give you more reasons for this.
Let’s go!
Benefits of using sex toys for women:
The first benefit is that using toys adds variety and novelty to your intimate life. This is especially important for couples in long-term relationships looking for ways to spice things up. However, the benefits do not end here; they go beyond pleasure and novelty. There are actual studies that show how toys impact our health. So they can help us manage our stress levels, decrease anxiety, and improve sleep quality. Also, toys can impact our cardiovascular health.
Not impressed? Well, check this out: vibrators are shown to increase lubrication for vulva owners and make orgasms easier and more intense. Many women have trouble achieving orgasm during penetrative intercourse, or even find it impossible to orgasm that way. So the fact that vibrators make it possible and easier for them is extremely important.
Furthermore, toys help us explore our bodies, learn what feels good, and communicate that to our loved ones. Women who use vibrators tend to be more self-aware, well-educated, and regularly attend gynecological examinations, which is beneficial to their health.
And for those who have faced some kind of trauma, toys may just be the needed tool to overcome it and reclaim their pleasure and trust again, so they can enjoy intercourse without fear and anxiety. Of course, this does not mean that the right treatment can be replaced with using toys.
For older women sex toys are not just beneficial but necessary. This especially applies for women who think sex is not for them anymore. So, using toys will help widen their vaginal entrance, as it tends to shrink as we get older. Beyond that, vibrators stimulate pleasure receptors, which then increase blood flow in the vaginal opening, creating more natural lubrication, resulting in less painful and more enjoyable sex.
And what about men?
Men can benefit from toys too. Although it is widely believed that toys are made primarily for women and not men, many are actually specialized for penis owners. But that is not the subject here. Let’s go back to the benefits of using toys. So the same benefit I mentioned for women earlier applies to men as well. And that is creating pleasure and joy. Sex toys add variety for men too, making their sex life more exciting. Toys can break the rut that men have around masturbation (same hand, rhythm, etc.).
But toys also impact men’s health. To be precise, they improve prostate health. By massaging the prostate, you help release excess seminal fluid (fluid that mixes with sperm to create semen). Seminal fluid can go back to the prostate duct, and massaging the prostate will help to clear the duct. The benefits from this are easier urination and less pain during ejaculation,as well as better erection. It is actually believed that massaging the prostate can help with addressing erectile dysfunction
There is more..
So we have seen that, regardless of gender, toys are very beneficial to our health.They are also beneficial to our relationships, especially if we are in a committed one. So introducing a toy to a partner will spark the flame, add variety, and strengthen the connection. And yes, I know talking about sex can be worrying, exhilarating, and scary. But once you get over it, it can change your love life for the better. Regarding that, here are some tips for making the talk easier:
- Take the talk out of the bedroom.
- Try introducing toys in a friendly manner. Remind your partner that they are not a threat, but more so a friend to both of you.
- At the end as we have seen toys help us to stay healthy and happy, so tell that to your loved one as well.
- Extra tip: Listen to some podcast or read a blog about sex , together. It will make the conversation more loosen
Hope you now know more about this topic and you are already on your way to treat yourself to something fun and sexy!
02.05.2024.
Certified sex educatior
Maja Milic